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Wait—what? New Year in March?

3/27/2024

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It was just one week ago: March 19, 2024. And since it was the first day of Spring, it also marked the first day of the Iranian/Persian New Year!

I was sitting on my moss green couch when I heard a ginger rapping on our front door. Was it the mail carrier with yet another UPS package to sign for? No; it was a gorgeous pair of sparkling brown eyes awaiting me instead. They belonged to one of Parisa’s (my adult daughter’s) Iranian friends.

“Zari?!” I said, laughing as I opened the door and welcomed her in.

“Saalam, Leslie joon! Sale no mobarak!” (“Hello, Dear Leslie! Happy New Year!”) she replied, hugging me with one arm and balancing a dish of tender green wheat sprouts (sabzeh) on the other. “And here you are: the sabzeh I promised to bring for your haft sin [pronounced “haft seen”]--I mean, for your New Year table!”


“Zari! I know what haft sin is. It’s a display of seven items from nature that start with the “S” sound in Persian, with each item symbolizing something we associate with new year!” Just like this dish of sabzeh you brought me, symbolizing the renewal of life.”


“Yes, very good—that’s exactly right!” said Zari, duly impressed. “So, where is your table with the other six symbols? I’ll put the sabzeh there.”


I cleared my throat.


“Mmmmmm… Well … Amin (my son-in-law) usually sets up the table, but he and Parisa are out of town now, and I still can’t quite remember where they packed the items and decorations from last year’s haft sin. But no worries--I’m sure I’ll find them! In the meantime, let me find a suitable tablecloth to put here on this table. We’ll make your sabzeh the centerpiece and get things started! 


​I found something even better than “suitable”: a fine cloth of gold and sky-blue brocade that Amin had brought back from Iran. But even when we draped it artfully on the table and crowned it with Zari’s dish of wheat sprouts, my New Year’s table looked pretty bare!
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“I’ll find the other items,” I told Zari a second time (but I wasn’t really convinced that I could!)

“You know what?” Zari said, interrupting my thoughts, “I have a few things to do, but it’s only five o’clock, and we still have six more hours before the New Year starts. So, I’ll be back if I can--and together we can make your haft sin complete!”


No sooner had I asked myself, Why should she go through this trouble for me?, than she pecked me on the cheek and answered my question (“Because you are just like my aunt to me!”)—as if she had just read my mind! Moments later she waved, and off she went!


Three hours later, I heard another rapping sound on the door. When I opened it, sure enough, it was Zari again--looking even more stunning than usual and ready to go out on the town! But slung across her shoulder was a plain linen bag that made clinking sounds as she entered the house! What was inside?


​“Sorry to be late!” she humbly apologized, “But I brought a few things from my house that maybe we could use for your New Year’s table? Wanna see?”


She reached into the bag, pulled out an assortment of objects, and laid each one just so on the blue brocade...
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Suddenly my lonely little haft sin had bloomed into a bright, festive tribute to a meaningful holiday. And it embodies the first act of kindness I remember from this year’s Iranian New Year!

​Thank you, Dear Zari!
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​And finally:
 
SALE NO MOBARAK!

A happy Persian New Year to everyone who celebrates it!                                          

PS For those who would like a brief explanation of the meaning behind the haft sin symbols:
 
It’s not hard to see how the green sprouts of sabzeh would tie in with the theme of the “new life” of spring. And in keeping with long-held Iranian tradition, at least six other items (all beginning with the “s” sound) should grace a household table with their symbolic presence:

  • Samanu: a wheat germ pudding, standing for affluence
  • Senjed: a dried fruit called oleaster, standing for love
  • Sir: garlic, which stands for medicinal power
  • Sib: the apple, standing for beauty and health
  • Somaq: sumac, which stands for fertility, and
  • Serkeh, vinegar, which stands for increased grace and patience with age
 
There’s a whole array of additional options that could make for an even fancier table: a polished mirror, shiny coins, brightly-colored eggs like you might see at Easter, goldfish swimming in a bowl. But between you and me, my favorite item will always be sabzeh, (like the sprouts Zari [pictured above] gifted me with as a centerpiece for the table, and like the shoots we used to plant in our milk cartons when I was in second grade!)
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ANNOUNCING THE WINNERSOF THE “WIN A ‘UNIBROW-LADY’ WALL HANGING” CONTEST

3/4/2024

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A warm welcome to everyone reading this announcement—whether you are new or a longtime visitor to this space!

This is Leslie Powell Ahmadi: a Black American Christian woman who met and married a man from a Muslim family—and for a period relocated with him to post-revolutionary Iran. Every month or so I enjoy bringing you information, an experience, an encounter, and/or a perspective related to Iran and its people. Something that may catch your attention. 

I have also written a memoir called Road Between Two Hearts: A Black American Bride Discovers Iran--where I’m the bride! But more about that in a later post!


  • A thousand thanks to those who invited new people to join my newsletter list    --and of course to those of you who decided to subscribe! In a special drawing that just took place on March 1, my husband reached into a fishbowl and drew the name of a longtime subscriber, along with the name of one of her new recruits! Consequently, both have been jointly identified the winners of that drawing! And this coming week each will receive a handcrafted Iranian wall hanging of the popular Persian figure I affectionately call the “Unibrow Lady.” (For more details on the Unibrow Lady [known as Khatoon in Iran] and her iconic connection to Iranian culture, (re)visit my post from January, 2024.)​
  • AND SO (drumroll...!) three cheers and hearty congratulations go to Ms. Kathie Clyde and her recruit Ms. Deb Zeiters: the two individuals whose names were drawn and (with their permission) are now publicly declared the winners! Each winner will be awarded one of the two Unibrow Lady wall hangings (from Iran) pictured below:
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Again, congratulations to you, Deb and Kathie! And for those who entered the drawing but did not win this time, please know that future drawings for other prizes lie ahead! What’s more, I encourage those of you who’d like tips on sparking a romantic evening, Persian style (complete with luscious recipes, poetry, and songs) to visit my homepage (leslieahmadi.com), where you can subscribe and download a beautiful free booklet on that Valentine/love-themed topic!

Incidentally—if you have not yet signed up for my newsletter, I encourage you to do so (which will also automatically enable you to download the free booklet referenced above). Since today’s message is more of an announcement than newsletter (or blog) content, please expect my upcoming “official” newsletter to arrive at your email box a bit later this month! 
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Kheilee Mamnoon (which means “Thank you very much” in Persian/Farsi)!
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Cross-Cultural Romance: Is it Worth It?

2/12/2024

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Meet Teratai—who answers the question in this Valentine’s season: “Cross-Cultural Romance: Is it Worth It?”

Introduction: I first met Ms. Teratai Hiep two years ago. It was through an online forum for trainers and coaches who help clients transition into new and unfamiliar cultural settings. She is an intercultural and English language trainer based in the Netherlands and runs her own practice at Prokompas Coaching & Training. She is also a genuinely compassionate person who passed on a particularly wise and helpful poem to me on a day she correctly sensed I might need it.
 
Originally from Singapore, Teratai loves tasting new cuisines, experiencing different cultures, and especially, listening to the stories of others. You can tune into her “At The Crossroads” podcast with Dr Leslie Ahmadi, when she interviewed me on my experience of moving to Iran for cross-cultural love!
 
But Teratai is also married to someone from a different country and culture! As today’s guest blogger, she was kind enough to write today’s special Valentine edition blogpost on the intriguing question: “Cross-cultural romance: Is it worth it?”  Drawing from her own experience, Teratai offers food for thought to anyone contemplating a cross-cultural romance—or who knows somebody who is. I encourage you to read her reflections below!

Here is what Teratai has to say:
(Note: If you would like to respond to Teratai’s post, please enter your comments at the end of the post below)
 
As Valentine’s Day takes center stage again this February, I remember the many couples across the world who are in love interculturally—and are also enduring a long distance between them. I was one such person. 
 
After seven years of enduring a long-distance relationship, I remember how difficult the holidays were. I spent hours online, facing a 14-inch laptop screen with my loved one on the other side. My partner (whom I am proud to call my husband today) was in the Netherlands, and I was in Singapore. Divided not only by time (six to seven hours difference) and distance (6,500 miles) we faced other potential dividers as well, e. g.:
 
I was East Asian, and he was Western,
I was Malay, and he was Dutch,
I was a big-city girl, and he a small-village boy, 
and so many other differences as well!
 
We always managed to navigate through the differences together, though. One Valentine’s Day, we made cookies on Skype together—both in our own kitchens, following the same recipe, I at my lunch time and he at his dinner time. Busying our hands with cookie dough, we laughed while shaping our cookies. But in our minds we were constantly yearning to share the same physical space. 
 
So, the question, “When marrying across differences, will love be enough?” remains a tough one for me.
 
We have been together since 2010. And in 2017 we finally succeeded in my making the move to my new home country of the Netherlands. And now in 2024, as I write to you from my office in Leiden, my fingers tap heavily on the keyboard because of the gravity of this question. 
 
I can be super optimistic and tell you love is enough! But in sharing the timeline of our relationship just now, I feel it doesn’t convey enough all the times we planned and yet failed to come together over the years. Or the effort behind learning and accepting each other’s cultures and traditions and the many mistakes we made. Or the patience and kindness it took for each of us to let go of the what-could-have-been-if-I-had-pursued-my-career instead of choosing intercultural love. And all the above could be just the tip of the iceberg for some couples who could be facing many other considerations too.
 
But has it been worth it? My fingers feel lighter now – yes, it has been worth it for me. It can be painful in the short term, but as I look back on the years, it has been a beautiful journey. And I am sure it will remain beautiful as the years roll in and new chapters open for us. But we must acknowledge that there will always be sacrifices involved as part of the growing.
 
For me, that meant not seeing my family and close friends back in Singapore as much as I would have liked. A close family member died some weeks back, and despite rushing to the airport and catching the next direct 13-hour flight to Singapore, I still missed the burial. It’s a wound that is still mending, but I accept it as a consequence of choices I have made. Marrying across differences requires consistency, patience, kindness from each other—and, despite how boring it sounds, meticulous planning too. I count my lucky stars that my husband has been a rock-solid addition to my life.
 
So, I send my love and best wishes to all the couples out there, as well as to family and friends of someone who is going through such an experience on this Valentine’s. Please be kind to them during this period of their lives. Intercultural love and long-distance relationships can be difficult, but they can also be beautiful. And I hope at the end of it all, yours will be as worthwhile for you as it is for me. 
 
Sincerely,
Teratai Hiep

Note: Special thanks to Teratai for her wonderful post! If you would like to find out more about her, you can read her blog or follow her on LinkedIn and Instagram.
AND NOW, A REMINDER FROM LAST MONTH’S NEWSLETTER: HOW TO ENTER TO WIN A UNIBROW LADY WALL HANGINGS FROM IRAN FOR BOTH YOU AND A FRIEND/COLLEAGUE
(Drawing on March 1)

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Persian Khatoon Wall Hanging #1
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Persian Khatoon Wall hanging #2
                                        [both made of wood and tile]
So, here are the steps on how to enter yourself and your friend in the “Unibrow Lady” Wall Hangings Giveaway (See below):
  1. Invite a friend or colleague who might be interested in my website and related content to visit my website and sign up for my monthly newsletter.
  2. If your friend/colleague agrees to consider it, direct them to my website at http://leslieahmadi.com, and ask them to subscribe (within 48 hours if possible) for a chance to win the Unibrow Lady—that is, one of the wall hangings that are pictured above. Actually, the prize will be one wall hanging for each of you!
  3. Next, please do the following (yourself): Write to [email protected] to notify me of your friend’s or colleague’s intention to subscribe. How?
  • In the subject heading of the email, write “Unibrow Lady.”
  • And in the body of the email, simply type in the first and last name of your friend/colleague, plus the email address they will be signing up under, then finally…
  • Under your friend/colleague’s name and email address, type in your own first and last name, plus your own email address.         
  • Now hit the “Send” Button—and Voilà! I will have the contact information of both you and your friend/colleague.
4.     Once I verify that your friend/colleague has signed up for my monthly newsletter, I will place the names of you and your colleague jointly in a special jar for a chance to be pulled in a drawing on Friday, March 1. And if your names are drawn (results will be announced on Monday, March 4), each of you will win one of the wall-hangings displayed above of the charming Khatoon, or Unibrow Lady! (I will contact you both for your mailing addresses)
                  I hope you and your colleague(s) will choose to participate!
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                  As always, Kheilee mamnoon! (i.e., “Thank you!” in Persian),
 
FINALLY—A HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY TO ALL:
INCLUDING SWEETHEARTS, BELOVED FRIENDS, CHERISHED FAMILY MEMBERS, AND EVERY SINGLE OTHER PERSON!
 
Leslie Powell Ahmadi  
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A Drawing, a Giveaway, and an ask for the new year!

1/19/2024

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Dear Friends and Readers:

​A warm welcome to the January 2024 blogpost of Leslie Powell Ahmadi: a Black American Christian woman who met and married a man from Iran who was raised in a Muslim family.

I met Mahmoud at The Ohio State University, married him in 1988, and four years later relocated to Iran to start a new life with him. It was not an easy decision. But ultimately Mahmoud, our two young children, and I lived in the spectacular historic city of Isfahan from 1992 – 1996. And a lot happened during those four years. It is all captured in a memoir I’ve written called Road Between Two Hearts: A Black American Bride Discovers Iran (stand by for details regarding its future publication).
Every month or so I enjoy bringing you information, an experience, an encounter, and/or a perspective related to Iran and its people that may catch your attention.   

But this time--for the first time in two years--I depart from that agenda to ask for your help!

Here is my question:
Would you be willing to help me grow my community of readers—by approaching family, friends, and colleagues of yours who would be interested in the kind of content I offer in my newsletter and upcoming book?

If so, here is my request, starting today and lasting through the last day of February (which this year is February 29: a Leap Year Day!)

Would you …
  • First sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.leslieahmadi.com, if you haven’t already  
  • Invite at least one friend/colleague you know to subscribe to my monthly newsletter at the same address (someone you think might enjoy my content)
  • Tell them that as a thank you for signing up by February 29 (the last day of the Valentine month), they will receive a complimentary booklet that they can download in honor of Valentine’s Day—a booklet called Menu for an Enchanted Valentine Evening, Persian Style--designed to celebrate an enchanting romance or an enchanting friendship. (Note: you can also access the booklet if you sign up for my newsletter, whether or not you have signed up before. And if you sign up a second time, you won’t receive any annoying duplicate messages or notifications.)
  • Tell them (and also take note yourself) that as an added thanks to those who subscribe, I will enter both their name and your name jointly in a drawing for a bonus gift from Iran: a decorative wall hanging that features the charming and iconic images of what I like to call the “Unibrow Lady.”
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(Popular Persian image of the “Unibrow Lady” [Khatoon] embedded in the sun)
Who is the Persian “Unibrow Lady”?

Inspired by a figure in Persian folklore known as Khatoon (a quaint Persian word for “The Lady”), I used to spot her emblematic image here and there, in Iranian stores and city street bazaars where handicrafts were sold.


Before long, I was looking for her (or similar images) in such places, and usually sooner or later she would draw my eye. She charmed me!


Adorned in colorful, classical Persian garb in keeping with her occupation—this one a princess, this one a chef, this one a huntress, this one a mother, this one a musician, this one someone’s beloved—what all the unibrow ladies share in common is their pretty round faces, an ageless quality and grace about them, an ambiguous hidden expression, and perhaps most of all, a unibrow—that is, a pair of eyebrows drawn as two thick black arches—joined in the middle and just above the bridge of the nose.


​Look below for two examples of Iranian handiwork with “Unibrow Lady” figures:
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Wall Hanging #1 (actual size: 8” x 2 ½”)
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Wall Hanging #2 (actual size: 5” x 3 ½”)
What is the cultural significance of the “Unibrow Lady” (Khatoon)? Ask several Iranian women and you might just get a different spin from each one. But if I could sum it up briefly, my understanding is that
(1) She embodies the thick dark brows that many Iranian women have naturally before they choose to tweeze them (which traditionally in the past was when they got married, but nowadays many young women start to tweeze around puberty.)
(2)  She represents a dual sentiment of many Iranian women that full and bushy eyebrows are both a blessing and a curse: i.e.,
  • a blessing in that full and bushy eyebrows are not only an emblem of feminine power, but are ample enough to allow a woman to sculpt her eyebrows in any number of stunning ways (if she so chooses), and
  • a curse in that full and bushy eyebrows may be a pain to have to maintain in sculpted form! (again, if a woman chooses to)
(3)   She represents a Persian woman with not only beauty and charm, but the confidence and boldness to display her unibrow as a statement of self-determination and personal choice.
AND NOW… HOW TO ENTER TO WIN THE UNIBROW LADY WALL HANGINGS FOR BOTH YOU AND A FRIEND/COLLEAGUE
                                                            
So, here is how to enter yourself and your friend in the “Unibrow Lady” Wall Hangings Giveaway:
a.     Invite a friend or colleague who might be interested in my website and related content to visit my website and sign up for my monthly newsletter.
b.     If your friend/colleague agrees to consider it, direct them to my website at leslieahmadi.com, and ask them to subscribe (within 48 hours if possible) for a chance to win the Unibrow Lady—that is, one of the wall hangings that are pictured above. Actually, the prize will be one wall hanging for each of you!
c.     Next, please do the following (yourself):
--Reply to this email to notify me of your friend’s or colleague’s intention to subscribe. How?
  • After you hit “Reply,” simply type in the first and last name of your friend/colleague, plus the email address they will be signing up under, then
  • Under your friend/colleague’s name and email address, type in your own first and last name, plus your own email address.          
  • Now hit the “Send” Button—and Voilà! I will have the contact information of both you and your friend/colleague.
d.     Once I verify that your friend/colleague has signed up for my monthly newsletter, I will place the names of you and your colleague jointly in a special jar for a chance to be pulled in a drawing on Friday, March 1. And if your names are drawn (results will be announced on Monday, March 4), each of you will win one of the wall-hangings displayed above of the charming Khatoon​, or Unibrow Lady! (I will contact you both for your mailing addresses)

I hope you and your colleague(s) will choose to participate!

As always, Kheilee mamnoon! (i.e., “Thank you!” in Persian),

Leslie
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A Persian Portrayal of the Very First Christmas!

12/22/2023

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I invite you to look at this jubilant scene of the very first Christmas-- here with Maryam, Yusef, the baby Isa and the traveling wise men, also known as the Magi*: 
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It was painted by the celebrated modern Iranian Christian artist Hossein Behzad (1894 - 1968). Highly respected by Christian and Muslim fans alike, he is known for blending both Eastern and Western influences while leaving a "Persian flavor" intact.

What do I love about the picture? The fluid lines, the live, luscious colors, the spontaneous wonder on every expression—where each body leans in unconscious attention, each eye falls on the baby in tender delight. A setting where strangers become an intimate circle. 

I mean—if you'd been around and had stumbled upon them, wouldn't you also feel welcome to join them?
 
P.S.: It is true that the majority of Iranian residents are of Islamic heritage; this I knew before I met my husband Mahmoud. What I did not know was that while Islam does not teach that Jesus (Isa) is the son of God, it does present Jesus as a great and beloved prophet, born of a blessed virgin named Mary (Maryam)—as captured in the joyful depiction above.

* Finally: I am not studied enough to verify the claims some scholars make that (at least one of) the Magi were ethnically Persian. But I do find it lovely that my husband's family in Iran seems to take pride in that suggestion!
 
Thank you, All Readers! May this season be just what each of you needs it to be.
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It’s Pomegranate Season!

10/30/2023

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PictureA November pomegranate from Columbus, Ohio, USA!
What better way to welcome NOVEMBER (and be sincere about it) than to remember it’s the peak of POMEGRANATE SEASON in many parts of the world?

There was a time when pomegranates weren’t as easy to find, when we’d be lucky to find them in specialty shops. But now they’re appearing in supermarkets—their succulent treasure just waiting to be discovered. So, if you haven’t ventured to try them already, I invite you . . . encourage you . . . dare you to try them! 

I started my own quest at the supermarket weeks ago--lurking about the produce section . . . poking around the aisles . . . hungering for the splendid red orbs with the top notches. When I spotted the first ones in early October, they were measly and spotty to the casual onlooker . . . but to me, even then, they shined bright and glorious:  the triumphant booty of my treasure hunt.

They ushered me back to memories of Iran, those sticky-sweet moments with Mahmoud’s family: our fingers drenched with the color of rubies, our tongues being alternately piqued and quenched by squirts of sweet tanginess brighter than cranberries. There were also the jubilant crackling sounds from the expert’s hands that could open a pomegranate. I can still see Baba, my beloved father-in-law, breaking off sections and passing them out as if they were chunks of a loaf of bread. Our busy fingers, dislodging the pellets, scooped their glistening goodness straight into our mouths . . .   

Baba knew the secret of feasting on pomegranate: that it’s as much an event about being together as it is about the pleasures of eating it. Maybe that’s why the pomegranate was his favorite fruit!


The Engineer
The One who fashioned ruby
Has crafted another masterpiece:
He chiseled out the facets,
Lined them all in silver,
Wrapped them in a ball,
And called it “pomegranate."
[--a favorite poem of Baba's (poet unknown), translated from the Persian]

PictureThe same November pomegranate--opened!
--Here's a short and easy YouTube demo on how to open a pomegranate
(Note: You can also use the same technique and skip the water step altogether) 

--And here's an article on the health benefits of pomegranates,

FINALLY
I invite you to watch my debut podcast interview with podcast host Toby Dorr (Fierce Conversations with Toby). You will find it on her website at tobydorr.com/podcast-schedule/
or on YouTube at www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1NcR6645Xw
Hope you’ll join Toby and me there!
Leslie
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A MICHIGAN ROCK WITH A PERSIAN MESSAGE!

9/21/2023

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About two weeks ago, some generous friends invited Mahmoud and me to share a cabin with them in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula. I had just wrenched my ankle badly and probably should have avoided a walk along the stunning white sands of Lake Superior. But the call of the water, the rhythmic waves, and the sandy white beach were far too hypnotic to resist.

​So, I found myself hobbling along the edge of the water, bending down to collect as many colorful, sparkling, water lapped rocks as my pail could carry. Then suddenly I remembered the precious gift of a rock that a colleague had found at a nearby beach and thought of me some years ago.
It was a small, brown stone with a cool, smooth surface. Except, of course, for a few indentations—a few well-placed strokes left behind by nature. Even before I had made the connection, Nan explained what was strangely familiar about it:

“Looks like some kind of script—maybe Persian or Arabic?” Nan asked me. It just looks so cool and I thought you should have it.” 

Sure enough: On the face of the stone these nicks and scratches somehow bore a striking resemblance to Persian (Farsi)! (If you'd like a preview, scroll down and take a peek at the bottom.)  

It was a gift in my day that I hadn’t expected—all the more because Nan looked as excited as I was. Here was a colleague, a kindred spirit, who regarded this “treasure” with the same eyes that I did. After thanking her warmly for what she had “bequeathed” me, I wrapped it in a tissue to take home to Mahmoud.  

I really wasn’t sure what would come of it: I mean, a Persian message on a Michigan rock? Its Eastern script like appearance should have been cool enough . . . but when Mahmoud told me he could actually read something (?!), I morphed into a kid who believed in magic again.

“So what does it say?” I asked eagerly (and a little impatiently).

“Well…what do you know? I can just make out words that read ‘Emdad gheibee' (امداد غیبی),'' he offered. “Translated, it means something like ‘Help from Beyond.’”

"Help from Beyond"! Could this really be possible:  A genuine message . . . with a touch of mystery to it? I truly wanted to believe in the magic—but I wanted confirmation from other Iranians.

So I showed the rock to four other people--and what do you suppose happened? Every Iranian read something different and wonderful:

--The first one saw اسد الله ("Asad Allah"), which means “Lion of God.”

--The second one saw اسرار ("Asrar"), translated as “secret.”

--The third one saw دسر ("Deser"), the word for “dessert.”

. . . And the fourth one ended up seeing a picture: a woman on each end with two kids in the middle! 

So, how to explain this perplexing mystery? The "script" was just clear enough to appear to be readable--and at the same time just vague enough to require some interpreting! It's a wonderful reminder of yet another mystery: how we can view the same "picture" and yet see it quite differently!  How aptly this describes the learning curve I experience at times when learning to see things from another culture’s point of view! (Of course, people from the same culture often view the same picture and see it differently as well!)
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So the "mystery rock" now awaits your interpreting, whether or not you are Iranian! If you would, please tell us what you see "inscribed" on it.  A photo of Nan's gift is presented below, along with the script interpretations already mentioned above.
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امداد غیبی' Help that comes from beyond
اسد الله Lion of God
اسرار Secret

 دسر Dessert
… plus the image of two women with two children in between!
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So, thanks for letting me be a kid again!
And happy future hunting of your own “mystery rocks”!
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A PERSIAN OPTION FOR COOL SUMMER EATING!

7/29/2023

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(For the recipe, go directly to the bottom)
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​In 1981, when I was attending a master’s program in Spanish at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, I developed a secret crush on the driver of the campus shuttle bus I took every day (this was at a time and place before Mahmoud!) His name was Andy, and it was definitely his soulful eyes that got to me.
 
But evidently he had noticed me too, because within a couple of weeks of my becoming a regular passenger, he asked me out one sunny fall day, when I was the last one to exit the bus!  
 
Our first “date” was lunch in his bachelor apartment, a meal sweetly prepared by his own hands. But for the life of me, and to my embarrassment, I can’t remember what Andy served me that day. That is, all but a side dish that struck me as strange: a bowl of gleaming white yogurt. Plain. Stark. And unsweetened at that!
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​Okay, I got it. One glimpse at Andy’s build and it was clear the guy must have been working out regularly. Apparently, he was committed to a healthy diet to match. When I said, “I see you eat your yogurt plain,” as casually as I could, I was surprised and relieved when he just laughed out loud and playfully finished my secret thought for me, saying “Yeah …what’s up with that?”
   
As it turned out, Andy’s glaring bowl of stark white yogurt led to a fun discussion. About the fact that Andy actually preferred the taste of plain, unsweetened yogurt to the popular, ready-made, jam-laced variety in the grocery stores. That he liked the creamy, rich, whole milk version over the low-fat variety. And that if I were to give myself half a chance, I might develop a taste for it, too.
 
Little did I know that twelve years later I would be living in a whole other region of the world, joining my husband and his Iranian family in a feast of amazing dishes, among which included—now get this—little bowls of gleaming fresh white yogurt, waiting for someone to scoop up a dollop of it with a wedge of Persian-style flatbread! Go figure.
  
And little did I know that thirty years after that, I would be sharing with you, my readers, one of my favorite recipes for a hot summer day! A Persian recipe that can serve as a main dish, a side dish, a cool and refreshing soup, and yes, even as a dessert! A dish whose main ingredient consists of—yes, you guessed it—creamy, white, rich, refreshing yogurt! And with all kinds of delicious, natural ingredients in it. Like diced cucumbers. And fresh mint. And dill. And green onion. And walnuts. And golden raisins. But not jam. Or added sugar. What do the Iranians call it? Mast-o khiar (mahst-o-khee-yar)—literally meaning “yogurt and cucumber.” My review? It’s light, it’s refreshing, it’s healthy and flavorful, with just enough “sweet” and just enough “savory.”
 
Are you intrigued at all, or at least curious? I hope so, because then maybe you’ll check out the recipe for yourself (below). As my friend Andy told me, if you give yourself half a chance, you might find you enjoy it—especially on days it’s too hot to cook! If you do try it out and you like what you taste, please let me know in the comments section!
 
Happy eating—and enjoy the summer! The mast-o khiar recipe follows below:
RECIPE   
Yogurt and Cucumber: Mast-o Khiar*
 
1 long burpless cucumber
½ cup golden raisins
3 cups plain yogurt (whole milk recommended)
½ cup sour cream
¼ cup chopped scallions
1 tablespoon chopped mint
2 tablespoons chopped fresh dill weed
2 cloves garlic, crushed
3 tablespoons chopped walnuts
1 teaspoon salt
¼ teaspoon ground pepper
½ teaspoon chopped fresh or dried mint for garnish
1 dried rosebud and a few petals (optional)  
 
  1. Peel and grate cucumber.
  2. Soak raisins in cold water for about five minutes. Drain. 
  3. In a serving bowl, combine yogurt, sour cream, cucumbers, scallions, mint, dill weed, garlic, chopped walnuts, and raisins. Mix thoroughly and season to taste with salt and pepper.
  4. Garnish with ½ teaspoon mint, plus the rosebud and petals. 
  5. Refrigerate for at least one hour before serving.
 
Variation: This may be transformed into a refreshing cold soup by adding one cup of cold water and two or three ice cubes to the mixture.  
 
*Please note: This recipe is shared by permission of Ms. Najmieh Batmangli, master chef and author of Food of Life: A Book of Ancient Persian and Modern Iranian Cooking and Ceremonies (1986). Washington D.C.: Mage Publishers, Inc.
 
[Finally, confidentially to Andy: Wherever you are, thank you for introducing me to plain yogurt: You were right on target! I wish I could send you this recipe to thank you with!]
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A Love Letter on Our Thirty-Fifth Wedding Anniversary

6/25/2023

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​Dear Mahmoud:
 
Happy 35th anniversary! (since our wedding on June 25, 1988!)
 
When I was 16, I came across an article that struck me—one where the (female) author made an intriguing conjecture about women:
 
“Unconsciously,” she said, “We don’t want to marry someone just like our fathers; we actually want to marry someone just like our mothers.”
 
Hmmm. Was that true—at least for a good number of us women? I pondered its meaning for thirty seconds or so. But somehow the notion remained in my head.
 
Seven years later my mother died at 54, and six years after that I met you.
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And that’s when I understood the author’s words. I had fallen in love with someone—a sweet man from Iran—with something in his makeup that reminded me of my mother!
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It isn’t just that you’re a nurturer by nature, just like Mom was in her strong, yet understated way.
 
And it isn’t just that you’re generous to a fault, by which you freely give away your time, talents, and acts of service, like Mom did.
 
It also lies in the uncanny and quirky coincidence of qualities you share—I mean, my darling Mom and the darling man I married:

  • How can it be that Mom smugly used to keep her so-called “secret stash” of cookies at home in plain sight—knowing full well that no one else in the household would be tempted to snitch from her intentional selection of oatmeal raisin cookies--a variety no one else liked but her? And that decades later, even without knowing that history, you resorted to that same fiendish little tactic—even down to choosing that same unpopular variety of cookie?  
  • How can it be that, despite your both being people of relatively few words, you can “tell it to me straight” when I least expect it—and be annoyingly right about it, precisely like Mom could. And yet, even in the blunt delivery of your telling, I knew I could trust your intention and wisdom.
  • How can it be that, when Mom was on this side of the world and you were still on that side, you were each pondering and judiciously sharing the works and words of Malcolm X, Frantz Fanon, Jesus Christ, Maya Angelou, Mohammad, and other prophets, poets, activists, and philosophers?
  • How can it be—as it was with Mom—that there are few things you like doing more, or making time for, than planting something outside, somewhere—working the good earth, tilling the soil, getting dirty and sweaty, and making beautiful flowers happen? Especially if those flowers are roses or peonies?
  • And how can it be that the year Mom died (1977) was the very same year you arrived at the States?
 
Had Mom been alive, I believe she would have been the first in my family to understand that you were for me.
 
And you were the first between you and me to find Mom’s graveside again when we returned from Iran after four years away.
 
The truth is—without ever having met, you are kindred spirits in my eyes, and you both still bloom in my heart.
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How deeply and gratefully I celebrate you both on our thirty-fifth (coral) anniversary!
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MEET OUR FIFTH INTERVIEWEE FROM IRAN!

5/24/2023

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Her name is Mitra Farrokh, she is 28 years old, and she lives with her husband in Iran’s capital Tehran. Although I am actually the American wife of her second cousin and not of her uncle, I like how she still calls me “Zan Daeii” (“Uncle’s Wife”), just like my husband’s actual nieces and nephews do--since there is no special term of endearment for “cousin’s wife” in Persian. Because of her vibrant and free-spoken nature, Mitra has endeared herself to me too, and she has a way of bringing out the playful side of me! Coincidentally, she shares a birthday with Mahmoud’s and my son “Niki” (Nikiar)—right down to the very year and day!

In the following 17-minute videotaped interview*, Mitra will share some details about herself, including important decisions she made for her life growing up. She will also share her observations of how certain cultural practices have been changing in Iran.
*Please note that because of limited internet access currently in Iran, video and sound quality will be impacted during the interview replay. Thanks to my viewers for your understanding, and a special thanks also goes to Ms. Mary Landrum, whose technological talents made posting the videoclip possible.                

I very much appreciate your attention and interest! If after the interview you have any questions or comments for Mitra, please feel free to enter them here or in the “Comments” section that follows the video.
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Mitra, we thank you [Kheilee mamnoon] for being the fifth person to take part in this interview series!

Finally, Friends and Readers, you will also find Mitra’s video interview on YouTube!
(Please invite others to view as well)

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    Dr. Leslie Ahmadi discovered her intercultural calling in her parents’ home at age four--where between the jazz, the spirituals, and the rock ‘n roll music, she heard folk songs in languages from around the world. Thirty years later she had a doctorate in foreign language and culture education--and her folk song guitar never far away.
     
    An intercultural, language, and diversity trainer since 2002, Leslie has worked domestically and abroad in academic, corporate, and nonprofit settings, with a current focus on cultural transitions in university settings. She currently lives in Columbus, Ohio with her Iranian husband of 34 years.

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